Wouldn’t that be somethin’.
Instead of running him down like a keystone caper in a wild police chase, I’m gonna show you how you can pull a 180 and get him to pursue you.
But the old tricks of being manipulative, playing mind games or playing hard to get just won’t cut it anymore… cuz frankly, high quality guys no longer fall for it.
Nada Señora.
Maybe he will for a day or two, but after a bit, he’ll catch on and do his own 180 and bolt. So don’t rely on the games of old if you plan on keeping him interested and chasing you.
In this post, I’m going to focus on 1 thing and 1 thing only… demonstrating you’re the irresistible catch he just can’t get enough of.
Once he sees this, he’ll not only be interested, but he’s naturally going to want to pursue and court you to be his better half.
Apply these simple tips to your life and I’m confident you’ll be pretty happy with what you see…
And soon, you’ll know exactly when your man is in love!
Okay, so we’re starting philosophical here.
I know, I know, but number one is the most important. And without it, the others really won’t work and you’ll never really learn how to make him chase you.
So what do I mean by believing you’re the numero uno prize?
Well, do you believe — in the core of your being — you’re a woman who deserves to be loved unconditionally by a wonderful man?
And if so, do your dating or your relationship behaviors communicate that?
When you believe you’re a woman deserving of love, you’ll act the part and attract that kind of man.
Believing you’re the best catch is practicing self-love.
But, as you can imagine, practicing self love in the context of a new intimate relationship is often easier said than done.
When we have strong romantic desires for another person, we often do things we think will win their affection.
We overlook red flags and forgive bad behavior. The chemically induced love fog overrides our ability to evaluate things clearly and objectively.
This is when the majority of dating mistakes happen, like when he loses interest, bails on you, or uses you for sex.
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So when your boundaries are being tested by a man, how do you handle it?
Do you give him multiple chances, or make excuses for his poor behavior because you’re afraid of losing him?
When you believe you’re the ultimate prize, you put self-respect above your feelings and remain true to your standards and force your personal boundaries.
Believing you’re the numero uno also means you’re not constantly trying to measure how much he likes you or wants you.
Who cares.
Instead, be more focused on how he measures up to you, and make him ask those questions to himself.
Bottom line?
When you practice self love… when you believe you’re deserving… it influences all of your interactions and you radiate with positive energy…
Which wildly increases your level of attractiveness.
When that happens, you’re irresistible to him.
Don’t always be available for him by always saying yes when he calls and asks you to go out.
If you’re wondering how to make him chase you, make send to him the message you have other plans or commitments that take priority, at least in the beginning.
It also forces him to recognize your independence, and you’re not just sitting by the phone waiting for his calls.
Remember, one of the most important things that men find attractive in women is independence.
It’s in this time where you let him know how full and complete your life is — and if he becomes a part of it — it’s because you want him to be part of it, not because you need him to be part of it.
Wait a second Heather, isn’t this a game you said not to play?
Well, kinda.
If you’re just playing the role and don’t have any true plans, then you are playing games…
That’s not the point here.
My point is this, I can’t tell you how many ladies I’ve met in the past that meet a new guy, then all of a sudden, their old life is over.
Done. Finished.
The priorities of old are no longer a priority, and instead they make the new man the priority.
No bueno.
Keep that going and he’s gonna want to be a part of it.
Don’t be so eager to drop everything for him, trust me, he’ll appreciate and respect you more as a result.
Before you know it, you’ll be sending good morning texts to him, but only after he’s committed!
This one is very important and often a rule most women disregard when wondering how to make him chase you.
80% of the time, let him be the first one to text or call to make plans.
Now I know many of you might be saying, why do I have to follow this ridiculous rule? Why can’t I just text or call him when I want to? Why does it have to be an issue?
Well, there are at least four reasons for this.
If a guy tells you up front he’s not looking for a relationship or anything serious, believe him the first time before you invest more of yourself and your feelings.
This relates directly to the first tip.
If you believe you’re the prize, you’ll know you can do better and you’ll never entertain the idea of getting involved with a man who doesn’t want a relationship…
Regardless of how attractive, or successful, or popular, or desirable he might be.
And please stop thinking you can turn Mr. Playah into Mr. GoodHub. I can’t tell you how many ladies ask me about this same issue.
I’m a firm believer that anyone can change, but if a man is dead set on playing the field, he’ll keep playing it.
It doesn’t matter how special you think the relationship is, once you get hooked, your heart will be ready to break.
Don’t get caught up.
In other words, before you know where you stand with a guy, don’t act like you’re head over heels in love.
If he’s not ready to make a commitment, he’ll only see you as a challenge he conquered and you’ll no longer be worthy of his full attention.
Be mutual. Move towards exclusivity together while not acting like he’s the one. If he’s making sincere and consistent attempts to make you want him, then he’s probably really into you and possibly falling in love.
Once he shows you he’s ready for more, then you can show him how smitten you are.
But a word of caution: Take things slow here. Men like challenges, a great way to make him chase you is to give him one.
You must be willing to walk away from someone and something if it isn’t working.
Stop entertaining his halfhearted attempts to show he really cares. If he’s giving you mixed messages, that’s halfhearted.
But don’t complain, nag, or fight him about it. That’s not gonna change a damn thing.
Instead, take your attention and be willing to walk away. If he has any feelings for you, he’ll scramble to get you back.
I love this article on Cosmopolitan that reinforces everything here.
There you go…
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Originally published at https://www.relationshipbreakthroughs.com on November 13, 2019.
