When A Guy Goes Silent On You: Here’s What You Should Do (2024)

You’ve recently started dating a man you’re really interested in, and you allow yourself to feel excited about the possibilities. But then, the worst happens — he goes silent on you. You find yourself staring at your phone, hoping for a text or call, anxiously waiting for any notification. But nothing comes.

When a man suddenly goes silent. I understand how crushing this feels, and it leaves you questioning yourself. You wonder what went wrong, what you might have said or not said, whether you should have been more intimate with him. It’s a downward spiral of self-doubt, making you question your worth and attractiveness. You find yourself thinking, “How did I end up here again?” It’s a confusing situation, and you’re not sure what to do when a guy goes silent on you.

My goal is to help you navigate the dating world from a place of empowerment — a place where you recognize your worth, have a voice, and can make choices for yourself. Even when you don’t hear from a man, remember that you still have a choice.

First, let’s consider two scenarios: a man you’ve only been on a couple of dates with and the most amazing guy ever, with whom things were progressing nicely, and you’ve been seeing each other regularly.

If it’s a guy you’ve only been on one or two dates with, the best thing to do when he suddenly goes silent is to move on. I know it can be tough, but it’s that simple. Don’t invest more time and energy into someone who isn’t showing consistent interest or communication.

On the other hand, if he was the most amazing guy and you believed things were heading towards a serious relationship, you need to assess if he’s emotionally available or unavailable. If you genuinely believe he was emotionally available, it’s essential for you to take responsibility, gather courage, and have an honest conversation with him to understand what’s going on between you two. A powerful, confident woman knows her worth and understands that she is not flawed.

You have the right to have a conversation and to know if you both share similar relationship goals and if the feelings are mutual. If he’s truly meant to be your partner, then you need to have this conversation, no matter how scary it may seem. Two individuals committed to growth, both individually and in the relationship, are necessary for a healthy partnership.

If this guy avoids the conversation, never calls you back, or flakes out in some way, it’s clear he’s not the right person for you. A true high-quality man will not shy away from this conversation. He will be honest with you about why he has pulled away and face the situation head-on.

It’s important to remember that everyone gets scared sometimes, especially when it comes to relationships. Unfortunately, many of us didn’t have healthy relationship examples while growing up, and we may still lack them in our lives. However, my mission as a coach and through the Crazy Wild Love Academy is to change that. I want you to break free from societal norms and familial patterns — to be the black sheep who defies expectations and creates a healthy, loving relationship.

If it turns out that your man got scared and genuinely apologizes, it’s up to you to honor yourself and decide if you want to accept his apology and give him a second chance. Everyone deserves a second chance at times, but make sure it aligns with your own boundaries and values. Trust your intuition and make choices that prioritize your well-being.

Remember, you have the power to create a fulfilling and loving relationship, starting with valuing yourself and making choices from a place of self-respect.