"The labels we place on people and things define them and therefore limit them." ― J.J. Goldwag
We human beings often label people around us while we also allow others to label us. Consider the assortment of labels you've attached to your children, spouse, or even the ones bestowed upon you by classmates, family members, colleagues, and friends. Some labels might be self-imposed, and some gifted by others.
The Weight of Harmless-Looking Labels
Lazy, clumsy, shy, gifted, princess, aggressive, quiet, hyperactive, slow, and genius are some of the most common labels we hear and notice in various environments. Perhaps you carried one of these labels in your childhood, or maybe they persist in your life today. But have you considered the subtler effects of these seemingly harmless labels?
Imagine labeling a child as "hyperactive" simply because they show a surplus of energy, especially in the company of others. Unintentionally, this might compel them to exaggerate their actions, striving to "impress" you and meet the expectations tied to that label while being entirely contrary to how you wish them to behave.
The Mirage of Positive Labels
How about labels that seem to be supportive and well-intended? Even those are not helpful. Labeling someone as smart or intelligent and being positive in appearance could simultaneously create similar pressures. Initially motivating, such labels can eventually become a source of stress. Over time, the burden of being perceived as intelligent might prompt one to believe that every choice and every move must align with this label. Anything less feels inadequate.
"Labels are for filing. Labels are for clothing. Labels are not for people." ― Martina Navratilova
Whether positive or negative, labels bring a limiting influence over actions, choices, and thoughts. They restrict individuals within boundaries, curbing their freedom to embrace their authentic selves and express themselves naturally.
For instance, the label "princess," might set rigid expectations like a flawless appearance and a mandatory elegance. Such limitations can impact the genuine exploration of one's character.
A Fresh Perspective on Labels
As I also mentioned in one of my earlier articles,How Words Shape Our Reality, it's time to reconsider the words we use. And I think the same way about the words we use to label ourselves and others. Instead of boxing behaviors into fixed categories, why not give specific feedback or encouragement about the actions? Let's critically evaluate the role labels play in our lives and the lives of those we influence.
Rushing to conclusions and effortlessly labeling people due to a handful of observed behaviors isn't a path that leads to genuine understanding or growth. Each individual's essence is multifaceted, and actions may stem from various motivations. By refraining from making quick judgments, we can allow people the space to evolve authentically.
As we consider the intricate paths of human interaction, let's resist the temptation of using labels and nurture an environment that promotes holistic growth, free from the restrictions these labels create. In doing so, we liberate ourselves and others from the boundaries of a one-dimensional representation.
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"The moment you label someone, you negate the possibility of that person being truly free to explore themselves." ― Eckhart Tolle
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