In today’s world, it’s very important to understand the difference between love and attraction.
Feeling attached to someone does not mean you are in love with that person. You are feeling this because you don’t see any difference between attraction and love. Here’s how to find out the difference between attraction and love.
Self-Esteem Vs. Happiness
First, when you feel attracted to someone, you want to have that person with you until you really don’t have the same person. The worst thing is – to have that person in your life becomes a question of self-esteem. But, once you have that person, your interest in him/her starts declining after a certain time.
-However, when you are in love with someone, you want that person to be yours, but happily. It is not about your happiness only. You want that person to be a part of your life wholeheartedly.
Demanding Vs. Giving
Secondly, when you are attracted to someone, you behave more possessively. The reason is the invisible connection between attraction, satisfaction, jealousy, possessiveness, and fear of losing your partner.
-However, when you trulylovesomeone, you do not expect anything in return. It is all about giving, be it love or sacrifice. The focus is always on the partner’s happiness.
Winning Vs. Sacrificing
Unlike true love, attraction is dangerous. When you are attracted to someone, the only thing that matters in your life is winning that person. At any cost, you want to keep that person with you regardless of her wish.
But, if you are inlove; you will let her go if needed, and leave their fate to take its course. You won’t be putting any undue pressures.
Selfishness Vs. Others
Also, when youlovesomeone, for you, it is all about the other person. For the first time in your life, you are going to prioritize someone else’s needs above your own needs.
Whereas, in the case of attraction, it is always going to be about your happiness.
Permanent Hatred Vs. Temporary Frustration
Love is wonderful at many things and can make you a better person. But, there is another truth. The closest feeling of love is hate. After you break up with someone, your love is going to turn into unjustified hatred.
In case of attraction, after a breakup, you don’t feel like hating someone. For you, it is going to be temporary sad feelings like anxiety, grief, irritation, and frustration for a very small period, but not hate.
Limits Vs. No Limits
Lastly, another difference between attraction and love is – the actual length. Love never dies and never disappears in real-time, whereas the attraction is limited for a certain amount of time.
Buddha answer very beautifully,
“When you like a flower, you just pluck it. But when you love a flower, you water it daily.”
One who understands this, understands life…
Physical attraction is common, but mental, intellectual and spiritual connection are rare.
The attraction is all about what happens at First Sight. But love grows slowly. Attraction can happen at any time of the day, while love is something that takes time to grow. The initial good feeling you experience when you meet someone is “attraction” not “love”. Love is pure while attraction can simply fade away. You can say that you are attracted to him/her because of his/her beauty, talent, character, personality or wealth, but love goes beyond that. Love is all about what you do your best to make that person happier. Whereas, the attraction is all about fulfilling your self-satisfaction and your own needs. Love is all about deep connection whereas attraction is all about physical affection. As the attraction is shallow but love is deep. In short, love entails attraction but attraction can exist without love.
