How to Make Someone Stop Liking You: 13 Steps (with Pictures) (2024)

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   Be confident in your decision. Make sure you’re certain you really want them to stop liking you. If you’re not sure, you’ll put yourself and the other person through unnecessary pain and send them mixed signals if you change your mind later. Think about why you want to end the relationship and write down your reasons, or talk it over with trusted friends.^[1]

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   Set appropriate boundaries. Keep clear boundaries with the other person so you don’t confuse them.^[2] This will usually work well enough so that you don’t have to have an uncomfortable conversation, but sometimes even if you try to maintain boundaries they’ll still try to hit on you or make inappropriate comments. Some good boundaries to try out before talking to them are:^[3]

   • Avoiding touching them or flirting with them.
   • Unfollowing them on social media.
   • Avoiding spending one-on-one time with them.
   • Staying busy with other people and friends.
   • Saying “no” to any plans they try to make with you.
   • Avoiding sitting next to them at work or in class.

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   Don’t force their hand. It might be tempting to try to get them to stop liking you by fighting with them, acting out, or turning them off with bad habits. But that could take a while and will be more painful in the long-run for both you and the person you’re dating.^[4] They’ll probably know you’re trying to push them away, so stop playing games and go ahead and talk to them directly!^[5]

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   Have a talk in-person. If they don’t respect your boundaries, or can’t seem to take a hint, you’ll need to meet them in-person to talk. Be clear and be firm that you’re not interested.^[6] Although it may be uncomfortable to tell them you’re not interested, especially in-person, they’ll be more likely to believe you than if you just send a text message.^[7]

   • If you really haven’t known the other person for long and haven’t spent much time in-person together, then giving them a call or sending an email would be appropriate.^[8]

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   Address romantic interest with kindness. If a friend likes you romantically but you only see them platonically, address this kindly but clearly. Note their positive qualities while conveying your feelings honestly. Explain why you value their friendship but don’t share romantic feelings so you both feel comfortable moving forward.

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   Be specific, honest, and clear. You don’t have to be brutally honest, but they do need to leave the conversation knowing you don’t like them in that way.^[9] You don’t have to list all their faults, but make sure you’re prepared with specific and honest reasons about why you don’t like them. Avoid vague statements like “it’s not you, it’s me.” Try to keep the conversation low-key.^[10]

   • If you’ve only known them for a few weeks, you can say, “I think you’re a good person, but you and I have completely different interests, friend groups, and lifestyles. I’d rather just go our separate ways.”^[11]
   • If you’ve known the person for longer, organize your thoughts beforehand. Be clear in your own mind about what exactly led you to this decision, whether it’s because they’re a really good friend, because you’re with someone else, or because they’re a co-worker. Whatever your reasons, you can keep saying to them, “This isn’t working for me.” This will keep your conversation with the other person on track.^[12]
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   Be nice. Even though you want them to stop liking you, you can still be nice to them by understanding their feelings and perspectives. The other person may try to persuade you that you’re wrong or that they can change. Acknowledge how they’re feeling. Just don’t let their emotions sway you to change your mind.^[13]

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   Reinforce your position. If you’ve tried talking to them and they’re not listening, still trying to win you over, or still disrespecting your boundaries, you’ll need to talk with them again. Make it clear you don’t share their feelings and need their behavior to stop. Repeat and reinforce what you’ve already told them before and keep maintaining your boundaries with them.^[14]

   • Try to write them an email instead of talking to them in-person, this way you won’t have to be alone with them.
   • Try to address your concerns as they come up. For example, if you notice the other person looking at you or saying inappropriate things, you can say, “I’m not comfortable with that,” “Please stop, I’m not interested,” or “Please don’t say that to me.”^[15]
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   Get help. If all of this fails and the other person continues to give you unwanted attention, get help from others. Let your parents, friends, teachers, and/or counselors know what’s been happening. Make sure you keep your distance from the other person, but if you have to be around them make sure you’re not alone with them. Keep a record of any texts or emails they send to you, especially if they’re inappropriate.

   • Make it clear to your supervisor, parent, or other authority figure that you've done everything possible to discourage the other person's attention and behavior.^[16]

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   Fade out or ghost them. Probably the easiest way to get someone to stop liking you, especially if you haven’t known them for long, is to just stop responding to them. You can choose to slowly stop responding to their texts and calls, or you can do it all at once. Either way, ignore them.

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   Stop sharing. Avoid sharing anything intimate about yourself. This will be a huge turn-off, because people need to feel like they can trust you and mutually share important things.^[17] Good communication is key to a good relationship, so the more you avoid sharing the more they’ll get the hint you’re not interested in starting an intimate relationship with them.^[18]

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   Be selfish. Good relationships are about sacrifices and making time for each other. If you want to get them to stop liking you, stop making them a priority in your life. Don’t allow them to think you want a relationship with them. Focus on yourself, your friends, and the activities you want to do. Say “no” to any plans they want to make.^[19]

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   Ignore their behavior. Once you’ve tried to get them to stop liking you, they may try even harder to do nice things for you or flirt with you. Don’t acknowledge when they compliment you, buy you gifts, hold the door open for you, or check in on you. Don't encourage any flirting. Appreciation, gratitude, and kind words are essential for healthy relationships, so you should avoid them because otherwise you'll send mixed signals to the other person.^[20]

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   Adjust your social media settings. If you've got an online presence, the person who likes you will still have access to you. By adjusting your privacy settings on social media, you'll be able to prevent them from seeing everything about your life. You can change your social media settings (particularly on Facebook) in several different ways, sometimes without the other person even knowing:^[21]

   • Block them, which will prevent them from trying to "friend" you in the future.
   • Unfriend them.
   • Unfollow them, which will still allow you to remain friends, but will hide them from your newsfeed.
   • Customize your sharing settings, which will allow you to block them from seeing whatever you don't want them to see.
   • Edit your timeline settings, which will allow you to block them from seeing anything posted to your timeline.
   • Turn on the setting that allows you to review posts friends tag you in before they're posted to your timeline.

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