Heroic Love | Words That Will Melt His Heart (2024)

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How would you feel if your partner said any of these phrases to you?

“You’re having a hard time, babe. Let me take over.”

“Don’t worry, sweetheart. Everything’s going to be okay.”

“Take all the time you need to get your thoughts and feelings out. I’m not going anywhere.”

“I love to just hold you tonight.”

“I was wrong.”

If you’re like most women, you’re dying to hear something like this coming out of his mouth.

You’d feel loved, protected, understood, and validated.

And you might think that, since these words feel so good to you, your partner would love to hear them as well.

You’d be wrong.

You and Him: Two Different Languages

In my forty years of working with couples, I have observed and recorded how men and women respond and open up to very different stimuli.

Most men and women basically want the same thing from each other – to feel deeply known and still beloved.

Yet, they respond to different words and phrases that evoke those romantic feelings of acceptance and appreciation.

Romantic language is too often geared to what a woman wants to hear, and doesn’t allow for what captures a man’s heart. A woman responds to words that make her feel heard, cherished, cared for, and protected. She wants to feel secure.

For a man, the most romantic thing you can do is to respect and love him for who he is. He wants to know that you trust him to care for you and protect you.

This difference in expectation and desire results in many misunderstandings and relationship disconnects for both men and women.

You’ve probably become frustrated when you’ve approached your partner in what you thought was a loving way, only to have him dismiss you or not react in the way you hoped.

But now you know – his reaction has nothing to do with you!

It’s not that he doesn’t love you or appreciate the way you’re communicating; he just hears love differently.

Cheat Sheet: 4 Phrases That Will Melt His Heart

Since it’s nice to have some useful phrases in your back pocket, I’ve gathered a few you can express to your man to make him feel more seen and desired for who he really is. Try them – they can make a significant difference to your partner.

1. “I know my long stories can drive you crazy, so I’ll start with the bottom line and you can ask for more details if you need them.”

Women tend to ramble when they share an experience and be indirect when they want something. Most men prefer to get to the point. You can work to develop a more direct approach that doesn’t keep your partner hanging, as well as generously offer only what your man asks to know about without unnecessary embellishments.

2. “I love to know what’s in your heart and I know you can share your feelings more with me after we make love. The sequence is worth it to me.”

Sometimes it is perfectly reasonable to talk things out to make certain that love-making works better, but offering to forego that preliminary discussion is a sure-fire way to make a man feel understood and accepted.

3. “I trust that you love me by all the things you do for me, even when I don’t ask you to.”

Men often show their love by what they do for their women, especially when they’re not asked to do them. Washing a car, making a drink, pouring a bath, buying lingerie, arranging a surprise birthday party, picking up dinner, participating willingly in child care, or fixing something that’s broken are all great examples. Appreciate him.

4. “Even if we lost everything, I’d still have you, and that’s what matters the most.”

Many men feel that if they don’t provide, protect, and serve, that they are not fully male. If they become ill, lose their job, or aren’t around when crises occur, they may feel like they are not honoring their obligations to their partners. Men who know that they are deeply loved and wanted, separate from what they should do or be, are grateful that they don’t have to suit up and show up no matter how they feel or what the circ*mstances are.

Learning The Art of Translation

The quality of intimate relationships increases measurably when both people feel, in their moments of vulnerability, that they have been heard, seen, and beloved.

If men and women remember to express romantic feelings that reach into the hearts of their partners, they are more likely to get the intimate connection they want.

Effective communication is all about translation. To communicate love and cherishing in a way that your partner can understand, you must learn how your partner will interpret what you say.

In my ebook Heroic Love, I dedicate an entire section to what I call “The Art of Translation.” When you read it, you’ll learn to understand your partner in a way that he has never been understood before. You’ll know:

• When to approach your partner with a difficult topic (timing really is everything)
• How to talk to your partner so he won’t get defensive
• The sure-fire way to create an unshakeable foundation of honesty and trust
• How to keep conflicts from escalating and damaging your relationship
• The 7 questions you need to ask before you request something from your partner

Make Him Feel More Understood Than Ever

Heroic Love is my life’s work. It contains everything that I’ve learned from counselling thousands of singles and couples to achieve love beyond their wildest dreams. I know it will make a profound difference in your life – and bring you the kind of romance you truly crave.