There comes a time in everyone’s life when we get very angry at someone and we have a lot to say. However, in such situations, it is always good to keep your calm and remain silent. It may seem difficult not to say something at that point and express our anger, but silence is the best answer. Silence is not empty, it’s full of answers and has its own language.
Some people consider silence as the victory of the one who is speaking. In reality, a silent person is actually a thousand times more powerful than a person who answers, for this person can say things in the heat of the moment that they will later regret.
Once a wise person said that if you answer to every barking dog, you will never reach your destination. There is no doubt about it. Most people around us generally talk and gossip about others’ problems. Some people will say good things, while most will criticise and some will even make fun. But if we start responding to all of them, we will never have peace of mind and will never be able to reach our destination, since their words will always hold us back.
In the same way, if we start responding to everyone’s words, we will be wasting our time and will eventually pay attention to their comments. This will divert us from focusing on our goals and stance, and we be influenced by others’ points of view.
I remember a short story told by my grandmother and I am sure many of you know. In the story, there was a pond where six frogs used to live. Once, they all gathered and challenged each other to climb the tallest tower next to the pond. Each frog thought he could climb easily, the next day, they started the race. When the frogs started to climb the tower, many other frogs came to see them climbing, and they all thought that it was impossible for a frog to climb on such a tall tower and so started making fun of those who were climbing.
As a result, the racing frogs got demotivated and backed off, except for one frog who kept climbing the tower, without paying heed to the mocking.
Finally, everyone saw that this frog reached the top of the tower. It was a feat that none thought could be accomplished. So, when they asked the frog how he did that, it could not answer them. It turned out that the frog was actually deaf and participated in excitement when it saw other frogs climbing up, without being influenced by the mocking of the watching the race.
Similarly, we should also ignore people’s idle talk because it is their job to talk behind one’s back and criticise. We can’t shut everyone’s mouth, but we can focus on what we want and our goals. Work hard and remain silent.
Silence has many other benefits, like it does not escalate the fight between two people. If one is speaking and the other remains silent, there will be no argument and the anger of the other person will soon cool down and the fight will also end.
There are people who talk rubbish and don’t care about their language, at this time, you need more patience than you already have. Keep your calm. The way others behave with you shows you their background and upbringing.
Silence is the symbol of maturity. When you speak less, you listen more, and as you listen more, you develop more understanding. Let others criticise and talk about us; just focus on your targets so that not just you, but your success will stop people from mocking you.
Published in Dawn, Young World, September 3rd, 2022
It may seem difficult not to say something at that point and express our anger, but silence is the best answer. Silence is not empty, it's full of answers and has its own language. Some people consider silence as the victory of the one who is speaking.
“The best answer to anger is silence.” This simple yet profound statement encapsulates a core tenet of Stoic philosophy — the vital capacity to maintain equanimity and clarity of discernment even when confronted with those who wish us ill.
Psychological benefits of silence can include enhanced creativity, focus, self control, self awareness, perspective and spirituality. Silence can be used both positively and negatively in communication, and thus can influence our relationships.
The brain needs time to think, reflect, and rest. It needs time to file away the stuff it has already learned and make room for the new information. If you create quiet time during the day, you're giving your brain the time to process any new information coming in.
Silence is a powerful tool in communication, and its significance cannot be overstated. In a world where we expect immediate responses, the absence of a reply can speak volumes. No response is indeed a response, and it carries its own weight in our interactions.
Silence speaks volumes when they don't recognize, acknowledge, or refuse to understand. It's the loudest sound there is when words do not adequately express thoughts to deaf ears. It speaks through the hurt when it's too painful to talk. It lets them know they've hurt you, not even sure if they are aware or even care.
Lao Tzu, an ancient Chinese philosopher, wrote the “Tao Te Ching” around the 6th century BCE. This quote highlights the inherent strength that can be found in silence. It suggests that by embracing silence, we can tap into our inner reserves of strength and resilience.
Silence can mean many things in interpersonal relationships. It's ambiguous. It can express lots of different emotions ranging from joy, happiness, grief, embarrassment to anger, denial, fear, withdrawal of acceptance or love. What it means depends on the context.
If we do not use our voices to reach out to others, we may become numb to our own inner voice and our conscience. The danger of saying nothing in the face of injustice is the loss of our agency to make a difference. Silence in the face of others' suffering results in a loss of our humanity.
Practicing (cultivating) silence helps us be more grounded, mindful, and present. That space (breaks in conversation, lack of background noise, time for reflection) is important to maintaining well-being, healthy relationships, and more.
That's what we mean by “silence is the best revenge.” When you choose to be silent, you're not giving the person the reaction they want. They might expect you to get angry or upset, but instead, you stay calm and composed. It can make them realize that their actions didn't affect you as much as they thought.
Another example is when someone says something we don't agree with or find offensive. If we are silent, we send a powerful message that communicates that we don't agree or are not going along with what someone is saying.
Silence provides an opportunity to reflect, to process the events of our lives, and to sit with our own discomfort and learn that we can grow stronger from the experience. So if you're interested — find a brief moment this week for some silence. No agenda other than just listening.
It is better either to be silent or to say things of more value than silence. Sooner throw a pearl at hazard than an idle or useless word; and do not say a little in many words but a great deal in a few. The world would be happier if men had the same capacity to be silent that they have to speak.
Silence is a source of great strength. Silence is one of the great arts of conversation. Silence is better than unmeaning words. He who does not understand your silence will probably not understand your words.
Introduction: My name is Horacio Brakus JD, I am a lively, splendid, jolly, vivacious, vast, cheerful, agreeable person who loves writing and wants to share my knowledge and understanding with you.
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